Mind your manners – old man!
“In sociology, manners are the unenforced standards of conduct which demonstrate that a person is proper, polite, and refined.” http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Manners
This wikipedia entry could of course be describing me.
I have brought up my small things to believe in manners, to understand what they mean and to say please and thank you with the essential smatterings of excuse me. A simple death stare from me is enough to remind them in an instant of a forgotten social grace.
So it really gets on my nerves when the older generation, otherwise known as old fogies, senior citizens or old biddies seem to think it’s okay not to use their manners with my small things.
Manners are in my humble opinion a two way street, regardless of age. And frankly (yes, yes I’m ranting) there have been several occasions of late when my children have been lovely and polite (and also almost spoke in the Queen’s English) to old biffers and have been met with rudeness, indifference and even a glare.
Now I know that children should be seen and not heard, should know their place etc etc but if my small things politely say ‘Excuse-me’ then they should not be met by a curmudgeon’s glare.
It irks me. And I then usually end up muttering under my breath just like an old bean at the rudeness, at the sheer impertinence – which actually would probably have more impact if the pensioner in question had switched on their hearing aid.
Undeterred, I shall continue my quest to ensure that my small things are brought up in the knowledge of all things that are right.
In fact I ensure they have lessons in courtesy, respect and etiquette taught to them every day, by me, their teacher.
1. The importance of respecting your elders
Lesson: bring me a cup of coffee in the morning
2. Be nice and polite to others
Lesson: be nice to me above everyone else and you stand a good chance of getting your spends
Lesson: open the door when I am carrying wine, wine glass and mobile
5. Never interrupt when someone is speaking
Lesson: when I am talking, do not attempt to speak as this will usually result in a loss of spends, cakes, treats and generally any fun in life
Of course, these essential lessons in etiquette I am delivering are for their own good. Should they ever meet the Queen they will know how to behave, but if she doesn’t reciprocate their good manners I may have to have a not so polite word in her ear.
I declare it to you now if the older generation keep treating my daaarrrllliiinngg small things with rudeness when they are being polite, I am not going to mutter under my breath, I might very well point out their own lack of manners.
I said MIGHT.
P.S. I love old people