Say my name…say my name.

Say my name…say my name.

No don’t worry I haven’t gone all Destiny’s Child, but I have realised that not many people use my name. 

My actual name. 

The name I was christened with. 

It may shock many of you but that name is Sarah..not Knighty and not mum or mummy.

I was talking to a friend the other day and in the middle of the conversation, she said my name. Immediately the conversation had more meaning. Immediately I listened a little more closely. Immediately I realised that I very rarely hear my own name. 

Of course I am talking about my actual name and not the given name for the past 10 years. I hear ‘mummy can you, MMUUUUUUMMMMMYYYYY, mum will you, MMMMUUUUUMMMMMM, is your mum there’ all the time. 
In fact when I go to bed it’s ringing in my ears. And then at 4am I hear it again and all to often I realise it’s not a dream, it’s real and it’s coming from the 6 year old’s bedroom. It also usually means that action is required.

I never liked my name at school. I hated the fact it couldn’t be shortened as it meant (and still means) that I was forever nicknamed Knighty. It’s one of the reasons I gave my small things names that could be shortened.

All through school, through university, through my career and even now if someone wants my attention, it’s often Knighty I hear. Nothing wrong with that of course (well unless you’re in a lovely posh shop and your ‘friend’ shouts Knighty from the changing rooms to get your attention; then I really pretend not to hear).

But now I like hearing Sarah; it often means:
1) I’m in grown up company
2) Someone grown up is talking to me 
3) It’s time to behave like a grown-up (this doesn’t always follow 1 and 2)

I think there’s a lot of power in someone’s name – used properly. 

I’m not suggesting you go around saying someone’s name over and over again as frankly that would be slightly weird, but next time you’re chatting with your colleagues, friends, peers use their name. Drop it into conversation and witness the magical effect of someone listening to you a little more closely.

Unless of course they are saying ‘Sarah, get another drink in,’ then all bets are off.

Sarah Knight

Trainer and coach in communications. Plate spinner.

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